Help For A Broken Heart

January 21, 2012 - Posted in Get Ex Back Articles - Permalink

Breaking up is hard. Many who have been through this experience have tried to cope with the loss of their significant other themselves rather than seek help for a broken heart.

The reality of breaking up with your boyfriend/girlfriend can be devastating in the beginning. A lot of time that was invested in the relationship seems to be all for naught.

Breaking up often leaves us with two choices. Either you can move on with your life and start over again or you can try to regain the love of your ex. The latter is a viable option as many have done it before but you need to be in the right mindset. Making rash decisions when you are emotionally distraught can have negative consequences.

Before pursuing your ex again, you need to be sure that 1) this is what you really want, 2) you are prepared to make any changes necessary, and 3) you are willing to accept this may not be an overnight process.

If you are seeking help for a broken heart, here are some steps that you will likely go through in the process of winning back your ex.

Facing the Facts

The breakup really happened. Some of us go through this denial stage but we must accept the fact that the breakup did happen. This is a time to reflect upon why broke up.

During the process of separation, there is usually fault on each side so don’t pursue this with the thought of “it was all her fault” or “I did everything to make him happy.”

Whatever the reason for breaking up, there is usually a reason given. Use this information see if there is any validity to that reason. If you are too emotional to give this any rational thought you might want to talk to a friend. If you want to get your ex back, you might have to make small sacrifices.

You Need Some Time Apart

The first impulse might be to contact your ex. Don’t do it! At least not right away. By not contacting your ex, you have time to think about what happened in the relationship. It might best to wait until you are able to talk to your ex rationally and not emotionally.

Not contacting your ex will signal to him/her that you are ready to move on. This will make THEM think about the relationship and what change they need to make for THEMSELVES.

If you have the same circle of friends, you might bump into them while you are out one night. Be nice but don’t put all your focus into them. If you are out with the group make sure your focus is on the group and not your ex. This will definitely get them thinking about the relationship.

The Meeting

At some point, if things are going well, you will have that first meeting with your ex. During the whole process of seeking help for a broken heart, this stage is the most anticipated. You will start feeling some emotions such as excitement or nervousness.

You must stay rational and think with your BRAIN. Don’t go into this meeting expecting to be back together afterwards. Treat this like a fact finding mission. During this time apart, you probably thought a lot about what you liked and disliked about the relationship. If you can have a civil discussion, you can bring up your thoughts and feelings.

Your ex will probably do the same thing. At the end of this meeting you both should have an idea what is expected of each other. If you are ready to meet these expectations, there is a great chance you will get back together.

As mentioned earlier, you must be sure that 1) this is what your really want, 2) you are prepared to make any changes necessary, and 3) you a willing to accept this may not be an overnight process.

If you are ready to do those things, you have a great chance of getting your ex back. There is no better help for a broken heart than getting back with the person you love.

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Need Proof Stalking Doesn’t Work?

March 7, 2012 - Posted in Content From Around the Web - Permalink

Breaking up hurts. Many people become desperate and will try anything to get their ex back. In a time where everyone has text messaging, it is easy to make quick contact with your ex in an effort to get them back. However, people can go overboard with the texting and cross that line into harassment. Here is a story I found where a deputy police officer is accused of sending his ex thousands of harassing texts. Here’s an excerpt:

A Hancock County Sheriff’s deputy sent a former girlfriend thousands of threatening texts after she broke up with him, according to police.

Jacob K. Smith, 27, now faces criminal charges of harassment, intimidation and official misconduct. The first charges are misdemeanors, and the latter is a felony. Read the rest here…

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Get Guy Back – Ladies Guide to Getting Him Back

March 7, 2012 - Posted in Get Ex Back Articles - Permalink

Ladies! Are you wondering how to get guy back? How are going to get this man back? Do you have a plan? If not, maybe this Get Guy Back guide can help.

If the break up is a result of one side cheating, you must recognize that both people may be at fault. Cheating in a relationship is never acceptable but there is usually a reason that one person will stray from the relationship.

Something was missing from the relationship that caused the guy or girl to seek the missing piece from somewhere else. If you are the one that got cheated on, you need to analyze if there is anything you might have done.

If you really want to get guy back, you must forgive and forget. All anger that has built up must subside if you want to get that guy back. You can’t hold it over his head if you have any hopes of repairing this relationship.

If you are the guilty party in the relationship, you must sincerely apologize. If you are truly sorry, you must commit to never making that mistake again. It easy to say I’m sorry but you must let you actions speak louder than your words.

In order to get guy back, you might need to swallow your pride and chase him a little. This doesn’t mean thousands of text messages or showing up unexpectedly at this job, but you must the one willing to make the initial contact.

It will take more than a simple phone call to get him to come back but you have to let him know that you are still interested in getting back together. This is a tough step because it requires one to put their ego in check.

You might have to take a step back at first. Many of us have heard that dreaded “Let’s just be friends.” Well, this is something that you might have to accept in the beginning if you want to get guy back.

Restoring trust is something that takes time do and being in that friend stage gives you time to do just that. Consider that friend stage the beginning of something bigger down the road.

Getting your man back is something that requires effort but there comes a time where you just need to move on. If the guy has zero interest to getting back with you or if you have to lose your dignity to get him back, it’s time to move on.

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Poetry to Heal Your Heartbreak?

February 27, 2012 - Posted in Uncategorized - Permalink

If you’ve ever been through a sad break-up with someone you’ve love, you may have written a heartbroken poem. You may have even written such a poem for things like the loss of a pet or a family member, sadness at moving away from your friends, or any number of sad life events.

But it seems nothing inspires such sad poetry as a break-up or divorce. Just as few things inspire love poetry quite like being in a happy, loving relationship.

Poetry is an excellent medium for self-expression. Unless you’re writing poetry with the hope of having it published one day, you can write poetry however you like. It doesn’t have to be good poetry. You don’t have to understand any of the poetic terms or conventions like rhyme, meter or free verse.

You don’t even have to have ever read a really good poem in your life to write a heartbroken poem that can help you feel better and maybe help you heal from the pain of a break-up.

An important early step in getting over a break-up or any sad situation is simply facing the pain. While it might feel better to avoid dealing with the reality of the situation, you can’t really move past it without facing it and feeling the pain, at least for a while.

So facing up to whatever painful situation is happening is necessary. A heartbroken poem can help you deal with those painful feelings when you’ve split with someone you love.

Don’t worry about whether it’s good or not. No one else ever has to read your heartbroken poem. It’s for you and you alone. Just write down your feelings, as hard as that may be. You can write in plain language.

Don’t try to imitate the poets of the 17th and 18th century. Write like you talk, and break the lines where it feels natural to you.

In fact, you can start by writing one huge paragraph filled with all your feelings and everything you want to express, just to get it out. Then you can go back and arrange your thoughts and feelings into a poem.

Once you’ve written a heartbroken poem, you might want to write more about different parts of the pain. That’s good. Get down everything you can, and that will help you to face the pain.

Writing the poetry will probably be a very emotional time for you. Don’t try to stop it. Just let the pain out and you’ll be better able to move on.

If you decide you want to share your heartbroken poem, you can show family or friends. Or if you want to share it but not with anyone you know, you can put it online. There are websites designed just for such things. You can upload your poetry for free and let other people know if you want to receive criticism or not. You might opt to not receive comments on your heartbroken poem and just enjoy the fact that you’ve shared your experience.

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Is It More Difficult to Restore A Long Distance Relationship?

February 27, 2012 - Posted in Content From Around the Web - Permalink

Long distance relationships have proven to work as many people are involved in them. But what happens when your long distance lover breaks up with you? Should you try to get back with them or would it be a waste of time since the long distance relationship isn’t bound to last. There is a post on the enotalone forum that deals with this situation. Here is an excerpt:

me and my ex were long distance for about 4 1/2 months out of the year, from january to beginning of april and then about a month during the summer and it is because he is off track from our university during the winter. Last time we saw eachother the fall semester 2011 was ending and we were going to each of our homes for christmas and we live in different states. last time i saw him was dec 15. He broke up with me 2 days ago after a month of acting really weird … Read the rest…

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VIDEO: Girl Crying Over Ex Boyfriend

February 15, 2012 - Posted in Content From Around the Web - Permalink

I just came across this video of a girl crying over her ex boyfriend on video.

Is the right way of getting an ex back? Should she learn to move on or is this a healthy way of letting out all her emotions?

Knowing how she feels about him, would her ex boyfriend take her seriously and treat her with respect after getting back together?

Let me know what you think?

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Are You in a Toxic Relationship?

February 15, 2012 - Posted in Relationships - Permalink

Does any of this sound familiar?

Your partner says they love you but their actions say otherwise.

It seems like your partner wants you to be dependent on them.

They put you down in front of others while out in public.

They try to control or manipulate you by wanting to know your whereabouts or keeping tabs on you.

If any of this sounds familiar, you may be in a toxic relationship. It can get to a point where you hate being around your partner whether it’s due to emotional or physical harm. So, why do people remain in these types of relationships?

How Did I Get In This Situaton…

The funny thing is that you slowly get sucked into this type or relationship without even knowing it. During the honeymoon stage, everything is peaches and cream.

However, during the course of time, the relationship slowly gets to a point where it gets toxic but you know how or if you want to get out of it.

This Can’t Be All There Is…

One reason people stay in these types of relationships is because that is all they know. They may have grown up in a family environment where there is constant arguing and bickering.

This all seems normal to these people so they don’t realize they deserve better.

You Have Options…

The first step of getting out is recognizing that there are more options. You don’t need to suffer in toxic relationships. This mindset might be caused by some form of low self esteem or depression.

You need to get in the mindset that you deserve the best.

Think For Yourself

Once you realize you deserve a happy and fulfilling relationship, you need to start standing tall in the relationship. Many people in this position have been told by their partner that it is all their fault and they are nothing without them.

Once you realize this isn’t true, you can start thinking for yourself without fear of negative consequences.

If you have a difficult time restoring your self esteem, therapy or talking to a group of friends can help get you out of this cycle of self loathing.

Not all toxic relationships have to end. Many of these situations can be salvaged.

Depending on the situation, it may require counseling, time apart, or total restoration of one partner’s self esteem.

In order for the relationship to improve, you MUST be willing to walk away if things don’t get better.

You can stick around to try to work things out but you must define a breaking point or you will continue this vicious cycle.

The relationship can be saved but it starts with you. You must believe that you deserve the best and you must be willing to move on if things don’t work out.

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Relationship Quotes for Your Enjoyment

February 15, 2012 - Posted in Relationships - Permalink

Below is a few relationship quotes I found that I though would interest you. Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note:

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
-Oprah Winfrey

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” -Anthony Robbins

“Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.” -Flavia Weedn

“The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that’s why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they’ve really done is they’ve shifted their relationship with time.” – Caroline Myss

“Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” – Mark Twain

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with” ~ Gillian Anderson

“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle

“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

“Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl – no superior alternative has yet been found.” – Winston Churchill

“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.” – Kahlin Gibran

“To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person.” – Eric Fromm

“Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

“You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it’s the best thing in the world. When you’re in a relationship and it’s good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.” ~ Keith Sweat

“Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

“Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made – like bread, remade all the time, made new.” – Ursula LeGuin

“Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it’s really no fun lying to ‘em anymore.” -Norm from Cheers

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Save Marriage from Divorce: Five Ways to Keep the Love Alive

February 12, 2012 - Posted in Save Marriage - Permalink

Although it may seem easier to file divorce papers and walk away from a strained marriage, many couples are looking to save marriage from divorce.

This is usually the best option considering the factors involved such as legal expense, emotional toll on the couple and kids, wasted time investment, and the social stigma attached to divorce.

If you want to save marriage from divorce, you need to find ways to keep the marriage thriving. Because things aren’t going well in the relationship, that doesn’t mean you should stop trying to rekindle that flame that brought you together in the first place.

Here are five ways to keep the love alive.

Improve Intimacy

Intimacy doesn’t always necessarily mean sex. Intimacy can include passionate conversations you have with each other. You can try opening up to one another. Don’t try to hide secrets.

Sharing your passions and dreams can help elevate the relationship to the next level.

The Big “C”

Compromise is an important part of all relationships. Even the healthiest marriages aren’t 100% compatible. There will be differences between each spouse.

It is how you handle these differences that will determine if you will celebrate that golden anniversary or signing divorce papers 5 years later.

Restore Trust

If your marriage is failing, there is a strong possibility that you need to work on trust issues. A healthy marriage requires trust and you need to make the effort to regain the trust of your partner.

Regaining trust is not an overnight process.

If you are the guilty party, you need to PROVE that you are trustworthy. If you are the one being asked for forgiveness, you need to be willing to give your spouse a second chance. Give him/her a chance to prove that they can be trusted again.

Support Each Others Opinion

If you want to save marriage from divorce, you need to have a healthy exchange of opinions. Each person won’t have the same views but you need to be able to understand where each other is coming from and value their opinion.

When you exchange opinions and beliefs, you get to know each other better and you may even learn something new.

Change Things She or He Hates

We all have habits that others don’t understand or like. If you have a bad habit that your spouse hates, you should make an effort to change it.

This is the part of the marriage where you need to compromise in order to make it work.

If you have a difficult habit like smoking, let your partner know that you are trying your best to stop. Don’t just tell them you are trying to change but actually make a real effort to change.

It is in the best interest of most couples to save marriage from divorce. There was something about your spouse that led you to marry them in the first place. If the things you love about them outweigh the bad, you should try the five steps above to save your marriage.

Your emotional state, children, and bank account would appreciate it.

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Getting Complacent? The Best Way to Lose Your Woman

February 10, 2012 - Posted in Content From Around the Web - Permalink

I just came across an interesting article about how guys (or girls) get complacent after being in a relationship for a while. During this time, many don’t realize their significant other is falling out of love with them. The courting doesn’t stop after you “got” him/her. There is still work to be done. Here is an excerpt from that article.

The biggest obstacle that stands in the way of most men keeping their wives or girlfriends in love with them long-term is becoming lazy and complacent. Most men work hard to do everything right during the courtship phase to get the woman of their dreams to fall in love with them. However, after they get married or they’ve been living together for several years, the man slowly stops doing the things that made him successful to begin with. Read the rest here…

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How to Keep a Woman Happy – Practical Relationship Advice

February 10, 2012 - Posted in Get Ex Back Articles - Permalink

You can learn how to keep a woman happy by following some practical advice. If you are not sure you are doing the right things, here are some tips you can follow.

Be Yourself

When most men are trying to attract a beautiful woman, they often try to put on a show. Many men lack confidence around attractive women so they feel the need to be someone they are truly not.

Here’s a newsflash, fellas! Women like a confident man. We’ve all seen guys that are with ladies that are “out of their league”. These guys have the confidence to just be themselves.

Little Things Go a Long Way

If you want to know how to keep a woman happy, start off by doing little things for her. Women appreciate little things like taking her car for routine maintenance, bringing her favorite Girl Scout cookies to house, or cooking a meal she enjoys.

You don’t need to buy expensive jewelry or go to 5 star restaurants to keep her happy.

Appreciate Her Value to You

You want to know how to keep her happy so obviously, she’s valuable to you. Let her know that she is an important person in your life. One of the worst things you can do is start checking out other women in her presence.

Guys, we’re all tempted to look, but don’t do it! She’ll begin to wonder if you truly appreciate her at all.

Take Interest in Her Activities

All guys been to a movie they didn’t want to see or to her friend’s house for a gathering when you rather be home watching the game. It’s easy to participate in activities that you have a common interest but it’s another thing to compromise and do things she likes to do.

It will show her that you really care. It will benefit you down the road because she will likely return the favor.

Keep Trying to Attract Her

When guys are trying to catch a girl, they do a bunch of things to present themselves in a positive way. They dress nicely, stay in shape, or shave regularly. Many guys make the mistake of stop doing these things.

Just because you “got” her doesn’t mean you stop trying. Getting her was they easy part. Maintaining the relationship is an ongoing process that is a little more difficult.

Here were a few tips for guys that want to learn how to keep her happy. You put in a lot of work trying to get her.

Don’t let that time investment go to waste and end up losing her because you failed to do the little things to keep her happy.

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Help For A Broken Heart